Bi sexual or Just Bi-curious?

Posted: January 8, 2010 in Random, research, sex ed

While driving to work today, I heard a woman on radio assert that all women are bisexual…. Or at least bi-curious. Apparently this caller has the hots for Kalekye Mumo of Kiss 100. I was tickled and as you know, the curiosity in me was piqued. So it was time to do a little research. Now all I need is to find any woman courageous enough to answer a few Questions…..

Funnily, Sexual orientation isn’t often cut & dry. People find themselves attracted to different people throughout their lives. So what’s the difference between bi-sexual and bi-curious?

The bi-curious women are playful and ready to experiment the taste of female flesh just for fun and can range from kissing and touching to intimate sexual contact, and everything in between. There is no actual definition of where bi-curious behavior begins and ends.

Bisexual women have sexual and emotional attraction to both genders. These women may or may not be willing to ask you (a man) to join in on their girl-on-girl escapades.

This is FYI to all women (just incase you didn’t know), the concept of two women making love with their soft, sweaty bodies pressed against each other has been proven by numerous surveys to be the most popular male fantasy. Show me a man who refutes this and I’ll show you a liar. And please ladies, don’t mistake this fantasy or use it to define and/or judge our own sexuality….. A man once in awhile needs to experiment (in the confines of his head)…. Though we might be open to suggestions/ideas.

So do all women have bisexual tendencies?

In the 1940s, Alfred Kinsey turned the whole argument on its head with his famous scale of sexual orientation. He found that most people didn’t fall into either strictly defining category of straight or gay — meaning that most of us are a bit bi. There is now a more modern and in-depth scale called the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid (KSOG).

So how do you tell if a gal is bisexual… or curious? Below are few pointers, not exhaustive I might add.

  • She openly appreciates women

This is the gal who arguably loves fine things and isn’t threatened by beauty of another. She loves pretty things (read pretty women) and appreciates their sex appeal. Her mind is open to observing such things… and maybe, just maybe, it’s also open to more.

  • Past experiences

She has at some point been involved in the woman-smooching scene and a tongue found itself wandering. This gal will always refer to that moment whether she liked it or not, and may be open to a repeat performance.

  • She’s into girl-on-girl porn

Enough said.

  • She’s overly affectionate with certain friends

Hmmmmmmmm ‘Overly’ here might be an understatement. It’s my gal this, my gal that!

As I said my list is not exhaustive….. Please feel free to share more pointers in the comments session and let’s help a sister out. Also you can use that KSOG scale just to be sure.

Moving on, further research show that women of age group between 20 and 35 are far more inclined to be with another woman for the sheer pleasure and experience of it. They are more sexually aware of themselves and of others around them, invoking curiosity and a genuine desire to experiment with sensations and their sexuality.

Women aged 35 and above may have become disillusioned with men due to a distasteful experience, and are now seeking the emotional connection that has been absent from their relationships with men. Though there is a greater tendency for this group of women to jump the fence and become full-on lesbians, they will most likely show an interest in men again once their emotional needs have been filled. Many women will temporarily swap sides to engage in a fully lesbian relationship, and they may seesaw from women to men throughout their lives

Teenagers on the other hand, are young (between the ages of 14 and 19), impressionable and keen to impress. Internet porn, the Madonna and Britney kiss, Sex and the City, and American Pie have all directly contributed to the new norm of girls kissing girls.

Now I still have more questions and I wonder if this blogger would care to answer a few……

Source: Internet
  1. bomseh says:

    On pointers, I had a girlfriend once who used to tell me that in school she used to leave her bed during cold nights to share her friend’s bed. They slept naked to share body warmth. What category does that fall under? Nzembi uko wapi utuelezee?

  2. Kafai says:

    Twiddling thumbs here. If you get her high, Kafaiceroy might reveal more. Oh dang, she quit!

  3. Mimi says:

    You’re right. Most women have the girl/girl fantasy (or it’s just me), and I like looking at beautiful women. Not models or superstars, but your ordinary,well put together, beautiful woman, even more so than handsome men (no, you’re not allowed to look at me strangely).

    Does that make me bi curious? Nope. I’m straighter than the Times Towers *grin*

  4. 3TOC says:

    I thought I was going to be physically sick by the time I got to the end of this post.LOL.

    BUT seriously?Like seriously?!!! Maybe I need to start drinking alcohol then again let me just leave things are they are.

    Are we back?Or only for research purposes.

  5. Peter says:

    I’ve seen this bi-curious phenomenon a few times now. And it’s definitely on the rise with the decline in societal inhibitions on matters sex, orientation etc. But to include ALL women is a tad much. Some are completely repulsed by the thought of a physical encounter with another woman. Maybe as the inhibitions continue to drop and girls watch more and more tv, we’ll witness the ‘changeover’. never say never @Mimi 😉

  6. Mo says:

    LOL. Y’all shouldnt bank your hopes on Nzembi to enlighten you on this. Just saying. 😀

  7. Not all men have the lady/lady fantasy. I actually think it is a turn-off.

    Oh, unless gay men are not men!

    • xs says:

      @Gay Nairobi Man, Now that’s a theory!

      @Mo Am sure Nzembi can be coersed to reveal & divulge some info….. and where is she? I thought she would be here already…. lol

      @3TOC research purposes

      @Kafai, Viceroy it is then, 1 litre enough?

      @Mimi, hmmmmmm sisemi kitu…. **brow creased in deep thought**

  8. willpress says:

    har har lovely article, very eye opening too! I have noticed another school of thought as regards bi-sexualism that is rather misleading… some of the proponents are of the assumption that girl-girl action means that the sex is safe(r). I asked a pal of mine why she prefers girls these days and she was like “I just hate the way boys always want to put their seed into EVERYTHING!” *sigh* yeah…

  9. Heidi Levis says:

    That was pretty interesting ready

  10. Carol says:

    Not stating what age category am in, or you put me in, I feel nothing “BI” in me, really, the society nowdays has practically no more taboos that had I feelings for women I would have been in (and maybe out) of a bisexual thing, but no, NOTHING. There cuold be something wrong with me if you think “bi” but, no, NOTHING§

  11. dempseysunday says:

    I think women who bi sexual are copycarts of wester lifestyles

  12. Answered your question with an experience at mine’s

  13. sisbigbones says:

    I went to an all girls boarding school and we had quite a few “lesbians”. In fact, one girl was suspended for that very reason. She got married last year and my classmates and I had quite a laugh about that. All the “lesbians” from high school are married and/or have kids. I vote for bi-curious on this…or maybe it was just desperation with raging hormones and all…

  14. Amy says:

    Very interesting question you ask! I’m aware that a majority of women have fantasized, but few have tried it and openly admit it. I myself came to a realization concerning my own sexual interests a few years back- I’m quite bi-curious. I am not one way OR the other….. so, could I be deemed as Pansexual? But, I haven’t officially done anything yet.

  15. Joliea says:

    Nice read. A real eye-opener.

    Now, what about bisexual men?

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